USE ME

‘Then saith he unto his disciples, the harvest truly is plenteous, but the labourers are few;’ Mathew 9 vs 37

As the children of God, we have a work to do. There is so much need for workers in the field a lot of people need to hear the word of God. Are we willing to say use me Lord, a lot of us are scared to allow the Lord to use us. I for one have had so many excuses in the past years, to busy Lord I’m sure you understand, I’m working, I have school, look Lord I have so many chores I’m sure you understand, how many of us can relate to this? Excuses!! Is it faith we lack? cause the bible says we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength Philippians 4 vs 13. if Christ tells us he will give us the strength we need why are we afraid of allowing God to use us in spreading the gospel. All we need to do is bring what we have in our hand and we will see how God uses that talent if only we have faith.

‘Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen’ Hebrews 11 vs 1

Remember the Shepard boy David, he had so much faith when his father Jesse did not approve of him to go and fight Goliath,  David replied his father ‘The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.”1 Samuel 17 vs 37. He believed in a greater power than him that would help him ,there was no fear in the young man and yes David went with a sling and a rock in his hand even Goliath must have thought what an easy task, but David said use me Lord I am your servant , he knew the battle was not his he was just an instrument .

David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied.  This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.  All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.” 1 Samuel 17 vs 45 -47

When we look at verse 50 it says David killed Goliath with a sling and stones that were in his hand.

Moses at the red sea had a rod in his hand, God instructed him to stretch his stick over the red sea and the waters of the sea were parted. This is another illustration of using what is in your hands and having faith. Read Exodus chapters 12 -15.

We have different gifts and talents that if we allow God to lead we can do so much in working for the kingdom of God. Allow God to use you in any way and see how he will reward you. My prayer is Lord use me, I believe you have a reason and purpose for my life, take the wheel Lord for the battle is not mine but yours Lord.

Food for thought – USE ME LORD.

Adelaide Nenguke

He brought me this far.

2017 was a year I learnt to let God lead, I had so many plans but for some reason they never went according to plan. I came to a point when I broke on my knees and told God I can’t do it anymore I have tried everything in my own power and its not working.

‘There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless, the counsel of the LORD, that shall stand.’ Proverbs 19 vs 21

This verse came to mind as I sat there one evening and this was the day I surrendered all my plans and goals to God. Surrendering  your life is not the easiest of things it is challenging, often I fell back to my ways of trying to do it on my own and, it’s amazing how God has a sense of humour he always put me back on track.

2017 came with tears and joy but above all I saw the hand of the Lord in all I did. So many moments I look back to and I can only say it was  only God cause on my own I would not have made it.

‘Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’ Isaiah 41 vs 10

The devil is there to try and steal our joy, the more you trust in the Lord it seems the devil try’s you more. During my Joy and happiness, I found myself having doubt, it’s funny how the devil loves to use the people closest to you to put you down, it can be a brother, sister, husband any one really whose close. The devil used this method, so I start doubting he is so clever and if you don’t have the spirit of God leading you he can destroy you. I found myself bitter, angry, worrying, sad and broke in tears at times, remember I mentioned earlier it is a challenge to completely surrender .i found myself asking God if he is there. It was one night I could not sleep I woke up and went to my quiet room, I just broke down and the only thing I could do was cry out to the Lord, I saw myself singing ‘fix me Jesus fix me’. I needed some holy spirit panel beating at this moment. God sends angels at the right time, a friend of mine called me and invited me to a Christmas show that weekend, I agreed and yes the Saturday evening I attended the show , it was amazing ,the message it had was as if it was for me , I remember one of the actors saying ‘the blood still works’ soon after that they sang one of my favourite hymns …there is power in the blood . I stood up and sang like never before,I’m not sure what my friend thought, I was filled with the spirit at that moment and a verse came to mind.

Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me? Jeremiah 32vs 27

I met lot of good friends in 2017 some who have encouraged me even if they did not know they were doing that. A child of God is never alone, I moved to a new country and I met friends who have become family , we are the children of God we should never lack.

Through it all God was not silent, as I faced 2018 I decided, no more resolutions but I would let God lead my path, he is the author of my life. I decided to leave worry, anxiety, doubt in 2017, 2018 is a year for working for my God , the harvest is plenty but the labourers are few.

 ‘looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.’ Hebrews 12 vs 2

‘Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful’. Joshua 1 vs 8

2018 –‘Don’t water the garden that God did not intend to grow’- pastor Moses

God is good all the time , all the time God is good

Amen.

‘Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come,The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5 vs 17

Adelaide Nenguke

Marriage : The importance of honesty ,physical attractiveness and financial support.

In marriage there are several needs that need to be taken into serious consideration.  I will mention 3 of them, honesty and openness, physical attractiveness, and financial support.

Honesty and openness–

Most of us need honest and openness as this will a sense of security and it increases the bond in the relationship. It is important that spouses become honest about their emotions, traditions, likes, dislikes, daily activities, expectations and any plans for the future. When a spouse is not honest and open about things this destroys the trust and the other spouse can feel insecure. This can also help build up compatibility.

Physical attractiveness–

It is important that the spouses stay attractive to each other. Women often change especially after child birth their physical appearance can change, so men should realise this will happen. The husband should be there for the wife as she will also go through some emotional challenges after her body changes. It is always good to encourage her and tell her how beautiful she is, keep reassuring her, this way she will feel secure and her confidence will come back. Women should try and keep up with cleanliness, dress well, do your hair make sure you also look nice despite the physical change. Look sexy and feel sexy.

Financial support–

The bible said husband should take care of his family, and the wife should be a helper. It is good for the wife to also help the husband this will lighten the burden in the household. It is good for the wife to also earn a living it does take the pressure away. The couple should be able to trust each other with their finances and this depends on how the couple has decided to run their finance. Finance is usually hard to talk about in a marriage and yet it is one of the most important need that needs to be addressed to have a happy and stable marriage. So people should never take this need for granted as it can make or destroy the marriage.

May every marriage find guidance and wisdom from God.

Stay blessed.

The importance of sex in a marriage.

When two people get married they have entered a commitment, one that requires them to be selfless. This commitment is one were you and your spouse should not deny each other sexual privileges. 1 Corinthians 7:4 -5 “The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Vs 5 says Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, which you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” When you and your spouse got married you trusted each other to meet each other’s needs.

In most marriages there is usually one person who has a greater need for sex, and it’s usually the husband. This need is very important to the men. By fulfilling this sexual need he will feel loved and cared for and gives him confidence. When this need is not met in the way he would want it, it brings tension in the marriage. Most women have to realise by denying their husband’s sex makes them feel lonely, rejected and depressed.

Women make sex a priority in your marriage, stop using excuses e.g.  I’m tired, I’m sick or I’m busy. This denial can lead to infidelity as the men will need to satisfy their need. Its high time women stop giving excuses to deny their spouses sex as this is going against Gods word and against the marriage contract you entered , think of it as a breach of contract  and it has consequence’s.  Sex was created by God to be good and pleasurable.

Most men complain how their wives are denying them sex in their marriages and this has put them in a difficult position as they often consider having mistresses who will satisfy their need. These mistresses are never tired, sick or busy because they actually know the men’s need is sex. Wives its high time you make your husbands feel loved and cared for by not denying them sex.

Are the many things that take our time and energy truly as important as this one? Now would be a good time to look at our priorities with the help of our husbands so they know that we are taking this seriously. Having heard from a lot of men, I encourage women: don’t discount it. It’s very important to him and your relationship and your own joy in your marriage. I hope you will find compassion for him and the way he was created.

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Adelaide Nenguke

Importance of affection in a marriage.

Affection shows that one cares. Affection is something that’s learned. Some men and women grew up in families where affection was not shown hence they will have to learn from their spouses. It symbolises security, comfort, protection and security, this is very important to the relationship. 1 Corinthians 7:3 says “let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband”.

There are different ways affection can be shown in a relationship, a hug, a walk in the park, holding each other’s hands, sending a little note “I love you”, phone calls ,sending flowers etc.  By doing this you create a bond between each other as affection is being communicated. Women require more affection than men, it is actually a need.

Most men find it hard to show affection to their wives, sexual gestures should not be confused with affection as they are totally different. A woman has the need to be touched in a non-sexual way at times, this shows her you care for her, appreciate her and she feels secure.  By seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit and obeying Gods word this can be achieved. It is not easy to do for the men, but if you want to spice up your marriage it’s definitely worth putting the effort. By doing this you will have fulfilled Gods plan on marriage.

The act of showing affection not only improves the relationship it give the children some security, they get to learn from a good role model. Children need affection but they are also happy when their parents show affection to each other.

Men, do what you can to meet this important need for your wife. Irrespective of your own likes and dislikes, it will meet her needs and improve your marriage in a great way.

My next article i will talk about how sex is important in the marriage.

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Adelaide Nenguke